To be abstinent is okay, but the reason should be something that falls within your belief system. Whether it is because you want to wait for “the one” or because you cherish your virtue, you should be the only person to determine whether you are intimate or not.

Both abstinence and chastity sound like such final words, don’t they? It’s been attached more to marriage than anything else because in the days of matchmaking, virginity was part of the dowry – the husband knew that he was in total possession of his new bride.

I just have never seen marriage in the cards for myself, but I love that my children feel differently because they have found the right people for themselves. I guess I just haven’t found anyone that I would want to commit my life to, because that is what marriage is to me – a lifetime commitment. Just like I stated in the previous post that love is everlasting, I would have to be in love in order to marry.

The value a person places on intimacy is wonderful because it means that they care about and believe enough in themselves that they don’t want to share this gift with just any and every body. I don’t know (and don’t want to know) of adult virgins, but I think it’s beautiful that they feel they want to be a gift to someone special.

But it’s okay to me and many others to get to know others intimately without the ceremony. I have not been promiscuous, because I am selective and cherish myself. But I have not been celibate either because I do enjoy intimacy – otherwise I wouldn’t be a mom and grandma!