It’s called animal magnetism for a reason. We are animals, and we are automatically drawn to others because of their looks or mannerisms or popularity, sometimes their possessions (or only their possessions). And it’s not because of “love at first sight,” it’s because of lust at first sight. It’s natural to be attracted to people and things we want.

Love has been misused and substituted for these feelings. The truth about being in love or loving someone is not based on attraction alone. It is a feeling that makes you care and want the best of the best for someone, and it never goes away. I hear people say they stopped loving someone, and I know they never did – they only stopped lusting someone.

Lust can get bored because there is only desire attached to the feelings. Whatever drew one person to another lost the magnetic force somewhere along the line. And it’s also confusing when you love someone but don’t like them. You can fall out of like but not out of love.

I cannot fathom anything that would make me stop loving my children or grandchildren. No matter what they would do, my love would not diminish – but my like may. And it wouldn’t really be not liking them, it would be not liking the act.

We just need to remember that lusting and loving are not the same, because lust has conditions and preconceptions attached. And at its base, it’s only about what the person or thing does for you at the moment.