This continues the discussion on choices but takes it a little further to choice consequences, whether good versus bad, good no matter what, or bad no matter what.

I mentioned that our values help determine what kinds of choices we make, even when those choices seem out of your character. I stopped finding a reason for the bad choices I made because I matured and realized that either finding blame of either a person or luck or whatever, or trying to rationalize what I did, only caused me to continue the same types of choices.

When you find a reason why something didn’t go right is because you listened to someone’s advice, for instance, it’s easy to say that person gave bad advice. But it is up to you to hear the advice and also research or weigh other options before making the choice. As I found out that my choices (mistakes) kept repeating, you will find that this repetition has no common denominator in the circumstance except you.

Blame, luck, society, finances, etc. all fall to the wayside when the same outcomes happen after you make the same types of choices. And even if there are no bad choices and you are waiting for some magical remedy to your happiness or quality of life, the same applies: Your inaction or wishing or playing the lottery or whatever will most likely produce the same results.