Lust reveals our basest animal instinct. We are animals, and we are prone to want the attention of others and eventually find a mate. Lust, however, takes it to another level. It is deemed a sin because it can turn into obsession. And this unfortunately leads to more dangerous acts like stalking, kidnapping, rape. I think of it as the stew formed by greed and envy.

I think it’s time we come clean and admit it: Love at first sight is really lust at first sight. Face it, when you first see someone you want to get to know, it’s not because you’re smitten and that person looks like someone you could introduce to family. It’s because your other brain said you wanted to get with that person because of how they looked and/or would look with you, and maybe (for some) it could turn into something else if you even remembered their name.

This is an acknowledgement that would probably serve everybody well if they would just admit it. Nobody thinks a person looks like they have a wonderful personality. And people are more often drawn to people who attract other people for whatever reason. I’ve heard there are success stories about online dating, but let’s be honest about profiles: do they all speak about the true intention of longing?

And don’t get me wrong – there’s the couples who have come together because they’ve been exposed to each other for a time, and they do know each other’s ways and characteristics. This is only associated with lust if only one person is attracted to the other but the feelings aren’t reciprocated in the same way.

I’d like to hear honestly for once someone come up to me and speak truthfully. I’m tired of hearing “You look like a nice lady” when what they’re really saying is “I like the way you look in those jeans.” Anybody ever hear “I lust for you” instead of “I love you”?